I love Julien Blanc because I believe that outrageous feminine love awakens true masculine power.
Julien Blanc is a Pick Up Artist that teaches men how to seduce women.
He is supposed to have a very dominant strategy that has caused a lot of trouble in the world, so Julien is now known as the “most hated man in the world”. He is banned from many countries because he would be an advocate of sexual abuse.
As he explains himself, his Facebook posts in which he recommends abuse and violence against women are taken out of context. I’ve just read an article explaining that Julien was just pulling of an amazing and stupid media stunt, to get some good marketing. I checked out Julien’s real content and he may not be connected to his deep masculinity yet, but he has some good knowledge to share. Let’s take on this chance to actually start an intelligent conversation about conscious sex.
And between you and me.. if he would actually be speaking about pushing a woman’s face on his dick (as people claim he does) it would actually make me horny. I can’t believe so many women, pretend it doesn’t turn them on.. Girls, he didn’t get so successful out of the blue. Would we be courageous enough to admit that parts of his game kinda does it for us?
First of all, let me express that sexual abuse is NOT OKAY! And most men out there are very immature in their masculinity (just like many women are insecure and immature in their femininity – there is a reason you attract the ‘bad’ guys… ) It is NOT okay to call any woman your bitch and your whore, if you do not connect these sacred words to the wisdom of your heart. You need the right intention and the right energy in a safe situation, otherwise this is is NOT OKAY. Matured masculinity is not about degrading women. Is is about honoring and serving women from your deep masculine core. You can choose to consciously play the role of the dominant man to support her to open up as the Divine Goddess. Unfortunately many men are stuck in their aggressive attitude, because that’s the only way they were taught how to behave around women. And I’m deeply sorry for the women that are abused by them in any way.
I have been researching the Pick Up Artist scene myself for years. I really love the way they are making a science out of seducing women.
Like Neil Strauss writes in his book “The Game”: in the end it’s more about something called “Inner Game” than it is about “Outer Game”. Outer Game are the tricks and pick-up-lines anyone can memorize. Inner Game is the true inner transformation that turns a boy into a man.
In my work I focus only on Inner Game. I initiate men into manhood, through sacred love making rituals. This gives them a real experience and deep transformation that causes them to be present with women in a different way.
I believe seducing women is all about owning your deep masculine power with hardcore confidence by loving yourself madly. This way seducing women doesn’t become the goal, it is merely a means for deep personal transformation.
I’m writing this blogpost to raise awareness on how we are using Julien Blanc as a scapegoat to project all our secret sexual fantasies on. A scapegoat’s function is to take on all the sin and blame of a community. As the scapegoat is burned at the stake, we pretend to rid ourselves of our dark sides. Because we repress parts of our own sexuality, we need someone to blame.
Julien Blanc hasn’t been very conscious in his violent Facebook posts, and probably isn’t aware of the deeper layers he is working with. He just followed his masculine instinct to dominate women. And it worked! Of course, he seems to be portraying a childish version of masculinity that hasn’t fully matured yet. But let’s not throw away the baby with the bathwater, because he is actually making a good point.
I think it’s so sad that so many people are responding to him from a victim point of few. In the past decades women have emancipated. Women have gained freedom to work and vote. Feminism has brought us so much freedom and feminine power. And I think that’s awesome.
But the story of women being repressed by men is getting old, ladies…
Let’s not get stuck in this old story, because if we do, we keep on victimizing ourselves. In this case we (and feminist men) are re-creating the story of victimhood over and over again.
Of course we don’t want to be raped. Of course we don’t want to be treated disrespectfully. Or at least not without our consent 😉
Instead of victimizing ourselves, let’s create a story of feminine power and own the fact that we love powerful, lustful, strong, determined men.
Why else is “50 shades of grey” so popular?
In my own journey I have had some dislikable sexual experiences with men. More than once I’ve felt raped and abused. But after blaming men for a while, I journeyed inwards and I took full responsibilty for everything that happened in my life.
I owned everything and I forgave myself. I forgave myself just BECAUSE I was just a child. I held my inner child in my arms and I healed her. This obviously didn’t happen overnight. It happened through years and years of soul searching, and feeling deeply lost in this world.
In my forgiveness I tapped into a tremendous source of love. Love for myself and love for the deep masculine. I opened up, reconnected to men and listened to their side of the story. This is probably the reason why I feel such love and devotion for Julien as an underdog.
In this healing journey I reconnected to my deepest feminine desire to fully surrender to men. Because I healed my pain, I could trust and let go again and receive men’s strong sexual guidance. I reconnected to my feminine desire to surrender to the deep masculine.
I believe women need to take some responsibility. Because even though women claim to be emancipated, so many women are unconsciously still playing daddy’s good girl. Instead of just being good housewives, we are now also being good employees, managers, directors or entrepreneurs. But we’re still trying to proof something. Still working hard to proof that we are just as good, if not better than men. We’re still fighting the war on gender.
Our men have either become soft diaper changing wimps or aggressive dominators. We have neglected the needs of our men, saying they’re not good enough, taking revenge on them.
Women saying they don’t need men, are bullshitting!! We complain about our lovers not fully satisfying us. We reject them and make them feel insecure, until they feel like failures because they can not sexually perform well enough. Isn’t it sad by itself that our men need to take seduction classes for us to even give them a chance to connect to us?
I feel we as women have forgotten how to receive men and how important it is to do so. We have lost our trust in men and we’re often holding on to the past moaning, bitching and complaining about these so called two thousand years of repression.
I rarely hear women take their responsibilty. Instead women are victimizing themselves, because why should a victim take responsibilty for anything, right? Okay, maybe women have been suppressed, and maybe things have happened that shouldn’t have. But we can take responsibility NOW for this moment in time. We can ask ourselves what caused our men to so deeply mistrust us that they felt they needed to disrespectfully dominate and burn us? I think every woman should ask herself.. how am I rejecting men? How does this make me responsible for war in the world?
Domination is a playful way of easing the feminine mind into surrender. Thank God Julien Blanc gets this!!!
If a women is fully centered and healthy in her own sexuality, she might LOVE getting her hair pulled and her ass smacked by a CONSCIOUS, awake man.
Women need let go of their fear to be judged when they allow their slutty side to come out.
The real problem is that many women actually still feel abused by men, they’re holding on to past experiences and they haven’t healed their own sexuality. There is too much hurt and pain in the way. They are too afraid to receive the power of the masculine, as they suppress their own sexual power. And so women continue to victimize themselves and blame our men.
The problem of many men is, that they fear this dominant part in themselves and they are not fully received by women in it. After years of feminism they try to be the good boy. But you know what, this good boy is booooorinng! A man trying to please a women is mighty unattractive.
Interestingly enough, even Julien is playing the good boy as he is apologizing for his ‘bad behavior’ on CNN.
I think it’s really sad that he is pretending to be a good boy, by taking back what he said. I think instead of taking it back, he should have OWNED it. Telling the world exactly why and how women love to be dominated. Or should I say, to be taken by conscious masculine presence. But maybe he doesn’t quite get what that means yet…
I believe his masculine instinct was correct, but because he’s not connected to the deep masculine power within, he didn’t really get what he was doing.
It makes me sad how women are proposing themselves as victims, when women voluntarily CHOOSE to be seduced by him. As they say in the Pick Up Artist scene: it is an honor to be secuded by a PUA and in my experience with the good ones this is absolutely true.
So here’s my video of love and devotion for Julien. I may not agree on everything he is saying and I think he is lacking some deep spiritual masculine presence, but I love him no matter what, because I believe outrageous love is the answer to everything and the only thing that will heal and transform us.
As a Religion Scientist I’ve been doing research on “authentic masculinity” and I am writing a book about my knowledge and experience as an intimacy coach and sharing my radical feminine desire. I would love to stay connected! Sign up for my news letter and youtube channel to receive more outrageous love!! Together we can really make a difference and contribute to the rise of deep feminine power that receives the deep masculine in her puddle of joy! Join in on my love for Julien in the Facebook group “We Love Julien Blanc”.
Please don’t forget to shout your voice in the comment box below. Let me know whatever is touched in you, so we can start an honest, painful and healing conversation..
I love you.
Glenn zegt
In dit artike (http://g00.se/truth-behind-julien-blanc/) staat wat meer uitgelegd over wat hij mannen nu echt leert.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks that’s a great article indeed!
pettan zegt
Nice one.
Respect that you put it out there in such a uncencored and radical way.
You seem to have alot of knowledge on polarity and such.
Maybe you could write a follow up article explaining some of the concepts that support this article for the mainstream, from a female perspective.
I Think as the Julian blanc movement is peaking anything will be turned against him and used as fuel and “evidence” of a sexist society, using Blanc as a scapegoat instead of trying to understand and educate ourselves in attraction, polarity, secuality and so on.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Yep, that’s a great idea pettan,
I will write more articles on this subject. Sign up for my newsletter to stay tuned!
I am on a mission to educate the world on true masculine and true feminine power and how to combine the two in sacred sexuality.
Please share my message in your social network and join the movement!
Much love!!
DavidH zegt
Amazing! Thank you Krista for your insightfulness and sincerity. It’s refreshing to see someone addressing that story with true lucidity. I was simply blown away. All the best!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks so much David. I’m so happy that it serves you and hopefully the world.
I am really out on a mission to change the way we view gender and sexuality.
Would be great if you could help me get my message out there and share it in you community! Together we can make a difference!
Also, I am writing a book on this topic, so if you want to stay tuned, sign up for my newsletter, it will be in English from now on 😉
Aaron zegt
If I had enough posts on RSDNation I’d happily give you a backlink from there.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Hey Aaron,
it would be GREAT if you could help me get the story out on RSDNation.
Please share about it with your community!
Together we can make a difference and evolve in sexuality world wide!
Thanks love!
gg zegt
That’s an amazing article and you’re very beautiful..I feel so much love for you as I read this.
Women like you are rare that can see all the nonsense in the world and still committed to step into their healing power. I met another one a few months ago and you’re the second one.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks so much (what’s your name)?
I wonder why all the RDSNation people stay anonymous? I’m getting my ass on the line here guys, the least you can do is back me up 😉
No really, thanks for being able to feel deeper into this and receive the depth of my feminine gift.
Realize this Love Letter has nothing to do with mere domination.
It effects the core essence of life…
Please help me share my message with the world and sign up for my news letter to stay tuned!
Much love!
Ryan zegt
Wow, a real woman. This is rare. Please write your book (and address it to women) men terribly need more feminine women. All we have is corporate drones these days.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Haha I might write a book for woman too, Ryan. You’re not the first to mention this..
However, I believe if men feel deeply loved and honored and centered in their masculinity, they get what is needed to transform any corporate drone into a juicy woman.
There’s a lot of work to be done on both sides…
Matt zegt
Hello,
It’s a really good feeling to see that some women can GET THIS and even more don’t judge person to death from 5 min video. I would love to read more about your views and practices too bad most of them are not in english.
There is a topic on RSD nation about your video, some guys are sceptic, but from your articles I see that you are genuine about your feelings.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks Matt!
I will be writing more in English. You can check out a few of my recent posts.
Yes I am very genuine in this and I’ve been addressing some of these issues for years.
Please support me in getting this message out there.
I would love to join the conversation on RSDNation and would love to talk to Julien, is that possible?
Much love!
Matt zegt
Julien almoust never writes on the forum, but Tyler does, I guess you can try to contact him. Here you have a link to the topic about your video and article:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/551388/forum?page=3
If it does not work just google: Outrageous Love Letter to Julien Blanc! And you will the topic. You just need to make an accout that takes few minutes and you can chat with guys there if you want to.
Peace <3
Anne zegt
Godess with ferm words, seeing truely what is going on. I love your words, your honesty, your relentless way of speaking out.
I can feel the respect you have for woman and men through the whole article.
You see and know what many women and men are not aware of the underlying paterns concerning sexuality.
I find it courageous. You were able to listen to what Julien really has to offer. which fits in a much bigger picture then being an advocate of sexual abuse.
He might have made some stupid decisions, for which he can apologize, but he must NOT apologize for the painfull root he is uncovering. Krista you are a hero to me. Women need to take responsibility as do men. The whole personal and collective history needs to be unleashed. The way to reach this, is responsibility. In each of us. There are wounds that need to be healed as you say. Wounds that come from Culture as well as from our own lifes. Take up personal growth, start being aware here and now. Walk a way from within. Lets celebrate there are people like you, couragious enough to speak up. Lets talk and sit together with women. How can we hold the space, so we can make an evolutionairy leap.
Deep bow sister.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Yes my dear sister.
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom and pouring your feminine love over us.
I am happy to create a space for woman to sit together and share about their pain and longings in sexuality.
I will create a circle to meet soon! Maybe in December in Holland.
Femke zegt
Kris! I started writing comments, came to four pages of writing and found myself in blabla and a desire to figure out what exactly your message does to me. It hits many layers of desire, pain, awe. I am gonna sit down with myself to get the shit figured out. Already want to thank you now for triggering so many layers in this for so many clearly, reading the comments on your posts. You need some serious vagina to not only expres the message, but get trhough all the shit that brings you to the lucidity of your message. Knowing it is such a delicate subject and it can be – and IS – taken so differently according to different layers of consciousness. The female pain in personal and collective bodies is strong and deep, I believe there is a deep need for healing, that in my opnion starts with empathy, connecting, rebuilding sisterhood. I even see the potential of conscious connecting in this to victimrole to allow the healing and pain of desillusion to be set free. Many women (and men, everything I write about women healing, also is applicable to men on their journey to consciousness) are in a place where THIS has not yet taken place. So many women do not even realise how unfree they are really… And if they do, world around is often felt as so unsafe that the connection to the desire to surrender, the possibility of being dominated in a divine way is not even ready to be part of their world. It is my conviction that only after an experience of a base foundation of experienced security, empowerment can start to take place. From that point on, the kick in the arse for responsability starts to do its magic work. Before it merely triggers projections of fear, desires held down so deep we dont even know we have them. And go and project them on men! Which explains the fierce reactions of women on your post.
I just realised I gave you the other side of the medaille perspective coming from my own mission and work. Beautiful that is! You set a lot into motion. Thank you my brave friend.
And for the men out here: I am truly touched by your presence and words. I am one of the women out there allowing her desire to surrender to the masculine and working her way to reponsability and through pain and fear and lil girl dynamics to be a woman wrthy receiving my man. A doubt in mymind is instilled that those man actually EXIST, reading your reactions to Kristas bravery, touch me deeply. You are out there.
To a healing journey to all of us. May we meet in connection beyond frames and fears soon.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thank you sister for writing so beautifully and courageously!!
It deeply touches me with how both male and female respond to me in several messages that they hope the conscious awake gender is OUT THERE somewhere. So beautiful how we are reaching out to each other.
I’m so honored to be part of this process with you all.
And yes, let’s connect as sisters and brothers. It is my path to give recognition to and honoring the masculine, but I also totally honor and love the feminine in myself and my sisters.
Aho.
jonas zegt
as a man working in self-development i have to tell you it’s refreshing and just fun to read such deep insight from a female. you’ve definitely travelled quite far in your own journey considering that the standard reaction to pua and blanc determined by mainstream thinking is outrage, crying wolf and victimization.
your eyes in your video show “feminine openness”, so i’m pretty sure you’re not faking anything here and enjoyed what you’ve had to say.
you seem to be influenced by the works of david deida and michaela boehm. is that right?
i’d encourage you to write more in english. voices like yours are rare and need to be heard.
great job!
-jonas
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Beloved Jonas,
thank you for your support! Please connect to me on Facebook so we can share more wisdom together! Would love to get to know your work as well.
Yes I am very inspired by David Deida’s work. I wrote my bachelor thesis that is a critical reflection of his book “the way of the superior man”, exploring how he is creating a new grand narrative that is quite essentialist, which is opposite of the social constructionist view that is more common in scientific research.
I feel encouraged to write my book in English. Looking for a publisher, if you have any tips, let me know.
Much love
Ar'turio zegt
Lieve mooie Krista!!
Bedankt, bedankt, bedankt voor het uitspreken van wat vele vrouwen en mannen denken en willen! Het is tijd om de taboes over sex, mannelijke & vrouwelijke instincten te doorbreken. Keep up your good work!!
With Love
Ar’turio
Master of Love
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Dankje Ar’turio!! <3
Anonym zegt
You get it, you’re the minority who are taking things more from a humanitarian and a spiritual side. Any person who is wise enough to question social values is likely to step out of sheep consciousness. Relation of man to woman and vice versa should be questioned by the masses and it is interesting to find that you’re trying to create a dialogue between men and women to get them questioning things.
In pick-up we’re repelled by the neo-feminist approach of doing things because we have already tasted a sense of truth and there is no going back. Still we’re the minorities, we go out and put things into test and we know what works and what doesn’t in seduction rather than hearing concepts from neo-feminists how men should behave. This will mostly remain a threat for men who buy into false traditional social values.
Julien’s situation is a bit critical because it wasn’t well calibrated only guys who are into pickup can understand it and he has no clarification for the average viewer of what is going on so it’s definitely going to shock the masses. People lose their selves in anger and are not likely to be in a receptive state to research and question things when there is lack of evidence and clarity. Only few will.
It’s a long battle about changing deeply rooted issues with both men and women and society as a whole. Hope and change are still there and good luck with your book!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks a lot! I totally agree on the difficulties for men and women to step outside of social conventions and start making their own authentic choices. I actually wrote my thesis in religion science about this subject.
Thanks!!
Liesbeth zegt
I feel the same and I wasn’t aware. Thank you for you love letter to Julien. Now I Know!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
thank you for your honesty sister!! Let’s raise awareness together, by claiming our true feminine desires. Whatever they are.
Nobody has to desire what I do. Find your own within <3
If you dare, share about them...
Rich zegt
You get it. Thankyou!
Much love.
UW zegt
Rather unorthodox and totally fascinating! I have no opinion about this guy but your article resonates totally with me. Particularly after a sexual epiphany a few days ago. Lots of love to you dear!!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks for speaking up love! <3 Totally supports me!
Jerry zegt
I WISH there were more open, authentic woman like you! Sharing this on all my social networks– people need to hear this.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
thanks for your support dear Jerry! That’s awesome!!!
Tjibbe zegt
As I said already: painfully honest and sincere, courageous and for me eyeopening..the only thing is: I doubt the men Julian is addressing are conscious enough to grasp the deeper meaning of it all, if only everyone could read your blog Krista!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Yes you’re right Tjibbe, I doubt that too. I hope it resonates on a deeper level beyond understanding though. Thanks for seeing me so deeply <3
Marian zegt
Thank you so much for your courage to stand up in public! The voice of a woman who has an deeper understanding of why men do Pickup. Pickuppers around the world try to learn how to get along better with women. They are blamed for all kinds of stuff. Juliens joke may be in bad taste but as you say, his teachings are different. There is some real truth behind a lot of his stuff. Sure, some of it sounds too immature and if you post stuff like this you should add that you respect women and doesn’t want to hurt them. I for sure are against any form of violence against women. It’s like the eye opening theorie with the salad and the burger. As a man you learn sooner or later that women don’t want a nice guy. You are trapped. If you behave like an asshole they love you for it. You have to learn to be the nice badboy. But if you ask them they say they want the nice guy. Like the burger and the salad. Now Julien has fallen in the trap to talk openly about the burger and not saying , PC, yes the salad! Having said that, I think its good for him to apologize as too many people feel offended.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Haha I love salads and vegetarian burgers too!!! 😉 Preferably both…
Love that comparison, thanks for sharing!
Peter zegt
Opstelten en van der Laan: Rug recht houden OOK een sexguru mag vrijuit spreken
Teken de petitie tegen fatsoensrakkers en moraalridders
https://secure.avaaz.org/nl/petition/Opsteltenn_en_van_der_Laan_Rug_recht_houden/
Fie zegt
Ongelooflijk en onbegrijpelijk hoe je van zoiets als dit iets spiritueels en (??!)moois maakt!! Zou je deze zgnmd filosofie verkopen aan bvb je dochter van 12 of 13 jaar?
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Ik zou mijn dochter absoluut leren over dat de liefde alles overwint.
Kerstin zegt
Amen! Thank you for standing up. it inspires me.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thank you for sharing sister! XX
Miguel D. zegt
Well i loved this post, just loved this, you look like a mature woman and thanks for the help for the seduction community. I love you!!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thank you, I’m happy to.
Please stay connected through signing up for my news letter, because I have so much more to share with you guys. I think you’re awesome.
Amalia zegt
Darling!
Heb net even gelezen wat je schrijft over Julien Blanc, en ik vind het weer superinteressant. Ik ben blij dat jij weer eens je bek durft over te trekken wat dit betreft
Want hoewel ik zelf zijn al te dominante methode niet heel erg waardeer -deze kan mijns inziens bij sommige mannen verkeerd uitpakken, richting écht seksueel geweld- vind ik wel dat veel mannen juist wat dominanter mogen zijn. Want ik krijg meer en meer de indruk dat er voor vrouwen een aangeleerde kuise norm bestaat, terwijl het daaronder seksuele wezens zijn. En het is aan de man om dat kuise gedrag van de vrouw te doortasten en doorbreken.
Wel heb ik het idee dat Julien Blanc nog een beetje een klein jongetje is dat trots is op zijn veroveringen. Daar knap ik zelf heel erg op af. Jij omschrijft het dat hij niet in het contact staat met het goddelijke, en zoals je merkt praat ik wat minder dan jij in termen van goddelijkheid, maar ik denk wel dat we het over hetzelfde hebben wat dit betreft.
Anyway, ik wilde dit even kwijt, want ook ik vind een man die jouw gezicht in zijn kruis duwt vaak heel opwindend. Mits het de juiste man met de juiste intentie is uiteraard 😉
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Dankje voor je support en bijdrage!!
Heerlijk dat je openlijk erkent dat je het ook opwindend vindt haha!
Lobsang zegt
Thank you, I am one of julien student
Krista Steenbergen zegt
thanks, good to know you’re liking it!
Andy zegt
Well, that’s certainly hotter than any porno!
You’ve just melted a frozen heart a tad with that video!
thank you!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thank you Andy!
<3
Jim Berosky zegt
Thank You so much..
Not only did you speak the truth, but also turned me on.. a real lot..
hahah Thanks again for your brave character!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks Jim! <3
HoneyHead zegt
Well that was a refreshing read. Good to see there are women like you around. Keep spreading the love 😉
– A Man
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks a lot Draw!!
Much love!
joost zegt
bijzonder inderdaad… en wat andy zegt over porno… Couldn’t agree more 😀
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks haha!
Yep, let’s create some authentic porn that inspires men to live their full potential!
alcibiade zegt
hello
i’ve been following julien for a few years and i want to thank you for speaking the truth about him. though, i would like to add he’s more aware of what he’s doing than you think. he keeps advising the way of the superior man to people. and i think that where your knowledge comes from. if it doesnt i suggest you read it because you will love the man who wrote this book. he must be your spiritual twin !
again, thank you for stating the truth. its rare. we live in a world where saying it out loud is dangerous. what a shame.
you really are the Antigone of our times !
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Ha thanks for sharing that!!! I totally believe Julien is much more conscious then I can see from this place! I just had to make a few side notes, because I don’t really know him. And he can come across a bit juvenile in his real teaching video’s, but at the some time that’s what I love about his approach, it’s young and refreshing with lots of humor and energy!
Perhaps he should consider speaking about consciousness more in his free front end products. But that’s a marketing choice to make. I can imagine why he doesn’t.
My work is very inspired by David Deida indeed, I also give this book to my clients to read.
Thanks for your support!
Much love!
Mike zegt
Hot, open and honest. Quite a treat, young lady. Your plea has made men pause and awakened more than feigned curiosity. I’m sure you have a wealth of life to share and teach.
Mihai zegt
Hi Krista! I’ve found your blog through the Julien video, and I’m glad I found it. The whole drama got me a bit worked up, so I dug up as much info as possible. I think, for most people who feel there’s something weird about this situation, this is the way to go – dig up information about the event and try to put things in perspective. This way I’ve found a few blogs that have a balanced view and are not mainstream rage-fueled like most reactions. This is a good test.
I’ve subscribed to your blog and youtube channel. I like your vibe and the poem in the video was really deep, it made me melt inside a bit. I’ve never heard something like that, it was like the call of the deep feminine.
Thanks, and hope to see more (english) content from you soon. Also, as an idea, have a bibliography page where you list recommended books, maybe in order of importance.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks so much Mihai!! I will share a list like that soon! Good idea!
I wrote many more outrageous love letters like that, calling out the deep masculine. I’ll share them soon. Good thing you’re on my mailing list.
I’ll create a totally english website soon where I will be offering my content and Skype coaching sessions. What do you think of the URL http://www.thelovingmuse.com? I already own it. Does it resonate?
Thanks!
Mihai zegt
I’m not sure about thelovingmuse. Muzera at least has a mistery to it, and once you find out what it means, it alludes to an age of muses, which itself alludes to archetypal images, which are the same through the ages. thelovingmuse sounds more like a person than an archetype, and sounds a bit limiting. sounds like it’s only someone’s blog instead of something which connects you with something larger than yourself. That’s the kind of thing I’d go for. But at the same time, avoid being cheesy, like ‘eternal-muse’.
The Girl zegt
You should check your “other” folder on Facebook 🙂
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Haha oops that’s the best tip I ever got. Thanks!!
Corine zegt
Lieve Krista
Amazing what you did here!! This is what I call mature feminine. To be honest I signed the petition that was going around last week against Julien. Letting my old patterns take over. I was aware I had not enough information, but not enough time at that moment to dive in. I felt more like a sheep following the sister herd. My immature feminine. I bow in compassion to her.
I admire you’re courage sweet sister and yess I also would like to meet Julien to feel for myself what he has to bring this world. And learn from him too.
I can feel a deep connection with you Krista because of the passion in work we share, both on our own way. I love to initiate men and women in loving intimate sexuality and lovingly relating. with women or men. I feel the world is longing for more love and deep intimate relating, more than ever. To me the addictions to drugs, porn and aggression are the dark expressions for our longing for love. I’ve seen so many men and women become so humble and loving; in a state of bliss when love surrounds them. Lets make more love. Sexual energy is a pathway to love and war. The choise is ours.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Amazing words my dear sister!!!
So courageous to admit that you made a mistake to sign against Julien in a rush.
Thank you thank you thank you…
Thank you for showing the world I am not the only crazy woman feeling like this.
I need support from my sisters!!
Thomas zegt
Mooi artikel Krista. Ik dacht dat het in Nederland nog wel meeviel totdat ik het item zag op RTL Late Night. Ook hier een verbod? Hoe hypocriet kun je zijn. Mocht je het artikel doorgestuurd willen hebben, laat maar weten. Greetz TW
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks Thomas, ja ik ontvang het artikel graag!
Anoniem zegt
I like the way you think.
As a young woman, raised by a feminist mother and no father figure present, I was taught that I should always make sure not to bow for a man. It’s been a struggle for me, as I do feel a strong preference for dominant men, but was always told that these men are mysoginist assholes whom I should probably stay far away from. This has left me insecure as to who I am as a woman, and I feel there’s a huge discrepancy between what my gut tells me I want/need and what I my reason/society tells me I should want/need.
I’ve been dating mostly rather insecure men who do try mainly to please, as I’m scared out of my wits by strong confident men who take an interest in me. I make a great game of rejecting these strong confident men as harshly as I can, leaving them baffled. Usually, after that, they’ll stay away from me. And I can’t blame them.
This aproach has been however very unsatisfactory for me. I’ve never been in a serious relationship, as I do not trust the men I am attracted to, and I (ashamed to say) tend to treat the insecure guys as shit, as they are unable to satisfy my needs. Making them only more insecure, causing them only to try to please harder. Only making me more irritated and displeased with them.
I read that you recommend the books of Deida to the men you’re coaching. I think it’s a shame you focus on teaching men, rather than women, as us women could really use some help too in many instances. 😉 Do you know of any literature or something that might help me come to terms with who I am and respect my own needs?
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Beloved sister! Thank you for sharing your truth so vulnerably. I totally recognize it! Ive recently started working with woman actually because I have so much to share with you, connecting in sisterhood, sharing my experiences and insights and inviting you to open up to your feminine power. I know how fucking scary that is!! If you want to find out if my coachong suits your needs we can chat on skype. Mail me at info@muzera.nl for more info.
Much love to you courageous one!!
Krista Steenbergen zegt
PS. How could I forget to mention my tantric coach Eyal:
http://www.intimatepower.com
He helps woman to be more sexual, creative and successful!
Callum B zegt
Hey you. I’m on RSD and upon watching your video. I. Thought you were being sarcastic about liking Julien… Cause it did sound habit over the top. You practising to be a poet or something?! Lol. Anyway there isnt just socially awkward people on there. There are people on there who like me was already confident and slept with many women but stumbled across rsd for some extra help and alot of the videos are funny. Everyone on rad knows Julien as a dark sense of humour and some of his stuff is fucked up. But he does it for marketing and pushing boundaries. Rsd people know this. But then the socially awkward ones won’t always get it and could go abit extreme when out.its collaboration and watching social cues. Anyway..when I makeout with random girls on nights out… I’ll pull their hair and sometimes I’ll say in a combo – do you like being dominated? And they all say yes. Just from that it doesn’t lead to a pull after a few mins chat. But the key is to attempttp move them…. Lead the girl around the venue or mall. A lot can still say no. But you just try again or move to the next one. Here’s something to get you horny – i ‘ll give you a good seeing too.
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Thanks for sharing haha!
Jay zegt
It seems Blanc studied David Shade (http://davidshade.com/), very, very thoroughly…. Probably because it works and Shade is much older – and longer at the scene.
I’m not condoning Blanc’s more ‘extreme’ antics (Shade never uses those), but I figure it is excellent free marketing – just baiting the ‘feminist caliphate’, resulting in him getting denied entry – where true rapists get released on parole as they deserve a second chance haha
Anyway, good thing you dare to speak, out as a woman – it’s time we ditch the main stream media’s ‘message’ about love, romance, lust and sex, as it is only a concerted effort to model and condition society – as opposed to admitting we still have primal needs and instincts – both men and women. Which can create stronger bonds, instead of the perpetual ‘war between the sexes’…
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Yea let’s combine love, sex, romance, lust, sex and primal and spiritual needs 😉
Dennis zegt
Totally fine that you don’t mind it if some stranger put your face in his crouch. Whatever rocks your boat. But because you like does it mean that Blanc can do this by 10 other girls who didn’t ask for it?
“If you’re a white male in Tokyo, you can do what you want. I’m just romping through the streets, just grabbing girls’ heads, just like, head, pfft on the dick, head on the dick, yelling, ‘Pikachu,’ with a Pikachu shirt (on).”
I can’t understand how you can support such kind of behavior. Keep people free from unwilling “head on the dick”, “head on the dick”.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYP-0vdnwUw&feature=youtu.be
Krista Steenbergen zegt
Honestly I don’t take these Picachu jokes too seriously. They were taken out of context and they were meant to be funny. Check out some of the real stuff Julien is teaching, like:
http://youtu.be/PS360836BGc
cheers!
Dennis zegt
The context is that he told a room full of social awkward men (his words) that you can do everything with Japanese girls if you are a white man. And to prove his point he showed a clip where he does exactly that. That’s the context. Blanc or RSD shared this clip just as that. No disclaimer, nothing.
If you say Blanc should own it, you should own it as well. To put everything away as a ‘joke’ what doesn’t really suites you doesn’t sound like owning it.
There is a time and place for racist and rape jokes. You can be a comedian, rapper or writer and get away with these kind of jokes. I can maybe even laugh at them.
Some people cannot afford to make racist, sexist or rape jokes. It just doesn’t fit if you are a teacher, priest or counsel men. And it is also out of place if you are a paid DATE EXPERT with a almost godlike status under social awkward men (again – his words).
Pail Joga zegt
A few of these men were awkward. But they were not dumb. Just because they were there pretty much assumes that they were familiar with the content of his teachings.
If you look at the other lectures he says it often enough that “You have to back off when the woman is uncomfortable” and then EXACTLY describes what uncomfortable looks like. So there is no misunderstanding, you know for the most socially inept.
So everytime you see him saying “You can do what you want.” Combined with the other teachings it is 100% implied “You can do what you want, IF you have the consent and she is comfortable.
And even in the heavily edited video, you can see this “You can do what you want.” was meant in the context of being in Tokio especially. And was to counter the notion of many people that you need to behave differently in Japan to attract women compared to other places.
People just jumped to conclusion and interpreted that “You can do anything you want.” Meant putting girls on your crotch without their consent. Just checking 1-2 videos of him and this mistake and witchhunt would not have happened. But people are to lazy for that.
Jessica zegt
A lot of his student idolize him like he’s some sort of god- of course a lot of men are going to blindly copy him.
And I’ve been watching his videos for years now…he can be funny and offer good tips at times, but he DOES objectify women , and he encourages his minions to manipulate and use them “for their own amusement”. He strikes me as a very selfish and disturbed person. He needs to understand some women may want to be sexually dominated by a trusting partner, not by some stranger that “playfully” grabs their throat and shoves their head to his dick like she’s some prostitute.
Dennis- I agree with you! The video made me sick to my stomach and I had nightmares that night. I mentioned David Deida in my other comment, and it’s funny how I realized Krista is also a fan of his work. He teaches men to be assertive, passionate and bold but he also talks about honoring women and creating a safe space for them. Odd.
Pepijn Blankwater zegt
I think that this guy is saying some true things, like you have to put up yourself there, show yourself. Maybe with his way of explaining and his system reaches the lower layers of society, the people that probably do not love themselves and are most of the time not aware of that. Supposingly Julien is playing his role so that these things come out in the open, out of the unconciouss. Let these things come up and being seen so they can be healed. I think it is time for people to really awake and open their eyes, for me to open my eyes, for what am i doing to myself. Why am i not attracting that love, why do people run away from me? I don’t want to point to others, about what they are doing wrong, it is my world, it are my thoughts. Julien is just tring to shake and confront people, i guess. I don’t like the way the woman are treated, as spoken in the media, but i’ve been there, it works, but it will never give you love. And love is what makes you happy, that’s what we long for.
Jessica zegt
I’ve been studying masculine and feminine polarity for years. I agree women have disconnected from their feminine energy for different reasons ( fear, abuse, and because we live in a culture that says femininity is “weak” and you have to be masculine to get ahead).
Yes, we are aching for strong, masculine men, but the kind of “masculinity ” Julien teaches gives us even more reason to put our guards up. Are you familiar with David Deida and three stages of relationship? The first stage is about superficial masculinity and femininity where the man is domineering, lacks sensitivity and abuses women emotionally, physically, sexually, or mentally. The second stage man is more civilized but he lacks strength and passion. The third stage man is passionate, assertive, intense, and bold BUT he is connected to his heart and honors women.
The reason you are turned on by Julien is because you probably never met a guy that’s actually masculine AND heart-centered.
Women have been called hypocrites because they read “50 Shades of Grey” however there are a few things to be considered:
First of all, sexual play of dominance and submission can be fun with a TRUSTED partner. A strange man pushing a girls head to his crotch is sexually abusive and dangerous. I would like to see how Julien would react if someone stronger than him ( lets say a muscular gay guy), forcefully pushes his head down to HIS dick.
Second: Fantasy and reality are two different things. For example, just because a guy plays violent video games and daydreams about killing people, that doesn’t mean he actually wants to start shooting people in real life. Also, there have been studies about women fantasizing about having sex with their fathers, does that mean they actually want to participate in that or that it’s a good idea?
And authentic femininity isn’t just about being sweet, soft, and receptive all the time-it has an EDGE and bite to it! We have to speak out, fight and “get ugly” if necessary. Guys like Julien aren’t conscious, trustworthy, or dignified enough for us to reveal our softness and feminine gifts.
There is a shortage of dating gurus that teach men the dynamics of masculine feminine polarity while still being a conscious, dignified human being. Women are longing for THESE men.